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FOR JOHN SMITH AND JANE DONE

by Brian Habit

Interaspects

So far, we’ve taken a brief look at who you and Jane are as individuals, and what you each need in general in any relationship with someone else, in order for it to work well. Now that we’ve done that, let’s move into looking at connections between points in your birth chart and points in hers. I’ll refer to such connections as interaspects, or aspects, for short.

INTERASPECTS BETWEEN YOUR CORE AND JANE’S CORE

To look at your interaspects, let’s start with those between your Sun/Moon/Ascendant (the very core of your chart) and Jane’s Sun/Moon Ascendant (the very core of her chart). It’s important that two people have some sort of connection among these most basic building blocks. Without them, there’s likely to be a central lack of communication, engagement, and energy between them.

Your Sun conjoins Jane’s Sun.

You both have the Sun in mid Aquarius. With your Suns in the same sign, it can be a little like genetic inbreeding.

On one hand, the greatest strengths of your Sun sign are reinforced. At best, Aquarius can be innovative, experimental, adventurous, and individualistic. This commonality can help keep your life together from becoming too dull. It’s not likely that the relationship will die from lethargy with Aquarius electrifying everything. Whether you realize it or not, you tend to naturally see the world and make assumptions about how to act based on the Aquarian motivation toward self-determination. Some relationships might suffer from claustrophobia, from the two parties focusing so intently and so continuously on being “us” that the development of a strong sense of “I” and “you” suffers. That’s not likely to be an issue with your Suns in Aquarius. Having your Suns together makes for a friendly connection, a natural tendency to energize and encourage each other. It helps you feel like you’re playing on the same team, and that helps keep a relationship going in the long run.

On the other hand, the natural hazards associated with your Sun sign are also compounded. Aquarius is restless, freedom-loving, into doing one’s own thing. The Water Bearer has a low tolerance for being confined or told what to do. This sign can be quick to rebel or cut and run if there’s a suspicion that one will be forced to conform to someone else’s standards or norms. That’s the sort of Aquarian filter through which you both see the world, and the world includes your relationship and each other. Neither of you sees the world through the filter of a sign that’s focus on stability (such as Taurus), or on togetherness (such as Libra), or on nesting (such as Cancer), and that can make for a certain lopsidedness or distortion. You and Jane might need to make sure that you spend enough time cultivating a sense of “we-ness.” If either of you sees the other as trying to squelch your freedom, or if you equate intimacy with captivity, make a special effort to challenge your perception. Maybe run your perceptions by others you know who are less Aquarian.

Your Sun squares Jane’s Moon.

Your Sun in Aquarius squares Jane’s Moon in Scorpio. In other words, they form a 90-degree (or right) angle to each other. This adds some tension, some basic difference between you, and that can be helpful if you manage it well. It can help you engage more strongly with other, if only because you keep bumping into this basic difference and you’re forced to react to it one way or another. There’s no getting around the fact that something about your Aquarian ego gets on Jane’s nerves, on her Scorpionic sensibilities. At the same time, there’s no getting around the fact that Jane’s intense attitude somehow has an annoying, stifling effect on your airy Aquarian spontaneity, on your desire to be yourself. You need freedom to feel good about yourself. Jane needs a deep connection in order to feel safe and emotionally satisfied, in spite of her own Sun in Aquarius. So what do you do?

Typically, the way out with a square aspect is to strike a reasonable compromise. The two elements at work will need to each make some sacrifice of their natural inclinations in order to make it work. Both people need to give some so that neither feels shortchanged in the bargain. You’ll both need to stretch.

When Jane tries to satisfy her emotional need for deep, intense, or psychologically-oriented contact with you, she’ll need to stretch beyond her instinctive emotional reactions. She’ll need to respect your basic individuality. If she’s tempted to play emotional detective, she’ll need to bear in mind that it could raise your hackles to feel like someone wants to know so much about you. “What are you getting at? Are you planning to try to control me, once you know more about how I tick?” It can feel stifling for you to have intense, probing heart-to-heart conversations. Such chats can leave you feeling drained.

For your part, you’ll need to rise above acting rebellious, contrary, or provocative if you’re tempted to do that with Jane. Temper being true to yourself with gently nurturing Jane’s introspective spirit. Consider how unsettling it can feel for her to try to connect deeply on an emotionally level with someone who seems restless and wants to safeguard his freedom. Just because you might have some intense heart-to-hearts with her, it doesn’t mean that you have to spend all your time playing psychologist or “spilling your guts” to each other.   

Your Sun trines Jane’s Ascendant.

Your Aquarius Sun and Jane’s Libra Ascendant form a 120-degree angle or trine aspect. They both lie in idea-oriented, social air signs, and this naturally commonality between your ego expression and her natural style adds some ease to your relationships.

Somehow coming into contact with Jane’s aesthetically-oriented, social style helps you feel better about yourself. If she approaches life as an artist, it helps you broaden your horizons in an exciting way. If she acts like a diplomat, it helps you connect with others around shared ideals. At the same time, sheerly by how you express your basic character, Jane feels encouraged to show the world her style in a fuller, more energized way. This mutual influence helps you both come across as being more vibrant, more alive.

To make the most of this, make sure that the two of you don’t reinforce any lies or unhealthy attitudes that you might unconsciously agree upon. (Fortunately, aspects such as your Sun square Jane’s Moon can help keep this from happening.)

For example, with Jane’s Libra Ascendant, she might be inclined to keep things polite and pleasant, rather than risk getting into an argument or risk things becoming unpleasant by launching into a discussion of some touchy subject. You, in turn, might go along with such an approach, at least if it means that you don’t have to get entangled in something messy that might weigh you down. With your Sun in Aquarius, you might stay so busy on the go that the two of you don’t slow down together long enough for either one to bring up anything touchy. Jane, in turn, might go along with that, too, to keep the peace or maintain some semblance of rapport.

Notice how being in agreement with each other can hurt the relationship, if it means that you and Jane end up never talking about important issues that affect you, her, or your relationship with each other. An “easy” aspect such as this one isn’t necessarily a purely good thing. Like with more challenging aspects, it comes down to how you handle it.

Ideally, when we look at connections between two people’s Suns/Moons/Ascendants, we’d find a mix of aspects--some easier ones and some more challenging ones. Easier aspects would help you have some basic harmony and agreement. They would help you get along with each other, while more challenging connections would provide some tension to give your relationship some spice. You and Jane do, in fact, share three connections among the most basic parts of your charts. These connections include both something for ease (your Sun trine her Ascendant) and something for spice (your Sun square her Moon), as well as the commonality of Sun signs. That’s a good start for relating to each other.