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by Brian Habit

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Marriage, Relating, and Personal Business

Brian, When will my boyfriend and I get married? Will we be happy together?  When will his personal business succeed?  He's been doing better but I want to know when his deals will reach fruition. I was born on July 14, 1971, at 12:20 pm EDT, 40 N 47, 73 W 56. My boyfriend was born on March 27, 1969, at 10:30 pm EST, 40 N 44, 73 W 53.   

Marriage

To address the question of when you and your boyfriend will get married, I used horary astrology. I drew up a birth chart for when I first read and understood your question (1:02 pm EDT, June 23, 2003, Durham, NC, US). (Click here to see the horary chart.) Please bear in mind that no astrologer is accurate 100% of the time in using the horary technique, and such questions about when something will happen are especially challenging to answer using it.

In the horary chart, you are represented by the 1st house, and your boyfriend is represented by the 7th house. Virgo is on the cusp of the 1st house, so its ruling planet Mercury at 18 Gemini in the 9th house symbolizes you. Mercury is in a mutable sign and a cadent house. Cadent house relates to mutable signs. Mutable signs correspond to a medium length of time (days, weeks, or months). Pisces is on the cusp of the 7th house, so its ruler Neptune at 12 Aquarius in the 5th house symbolizes your boyfriend. Neptune is in a fixed sign in a succedent house, and succedent houses relate to fixed signs. Fixed signs correspond to a long length of time (weeks, months, or years). Therefore, it seems that we’re looking at a matter of weeks or months.

Mercury and Neptune lie roughly five and a half degrees apart. Based on that, it looks like you’ll get married in five and a half weeks or months. To clarify the timing, I noted that the cusp of the 7th house of marriage will conjoin the Moon in roughly 26 degrees. Five and a half months would be approximately 26 weeks, so it seems to me that you will get married in roughly five and a half months--sometime toward the end of this year. Again, though, I cannot guarantee that this will prove to be correct.

Relating

It’s my belief that it’s impossible to say with certainty whether the two of you will be happy together. The connections between your respective birth charts indicate a mix of natural ease and challenge in any sort of relationship between you. However, it’s the choices that you make in relating to each other that will ultimately determine what you make of such potential.

Your birth chart includes a T-square in cardinal signs: Moon in Aries opposite Uranus-Ascendant in Libra, with all of that squaring your Venus-Midheaven in Cancer. You also have the Sun in Cancer. With so much cardinal energy, you probably tend to prefer being in the driver’s seat, however gentle or understated you might be about occupying it. Your boyfriend’s chart includes the Sun in independent Aries, the Moon in proud Leo, and intense Scorpio on the Ascendant. This combination of signs makes for a guy who isn’t inclined to tolerate being told what to do. He needs opportunities to express his passion and independence freely, exuberantly. So here we have two people who like to call the shots or at least not be told what to do. To make it work, you will both need to respect each other’s rights—assert yourselves without trying to control what each other does.

With Sun, Venus and Midheaven in Cancer, you may tend toward a lower-key, more emotionally reactive role in the relationship, while he may tend toward a fierier, more rough-and-tumble role. Therefore, I suggest that he make an effort to exercise some self-restraint when he feels wound up about something, and you make some allowances for his motivations being gentler than his manner might seem at times. That will help keep you from feeling “scorched” by his fieriness. It will also help him not feel like he’s expected to walk on eggshells when he's around you.

Your boyfriend’s Sun and Mars—two vibrant, energetic, me-oriented planets—activate your T-square. This makes for a lively, though potentially combative chemistry. His Sun sits with your Moon, helping the two of you connect in an important basic way: the pioneering, daring sorts of experiences that help him feel good about who he is also help you feel safe and satisfied. Such Arian activities feed his Sun and your Moon. His Sun also, opposes your Uranus and squares your Venus-Midheaven.

If you let yourselves become polarized about how much independence he has versus how much companionship you have (on your terms), it could erupt into a battle of wills. On the other hand, if you take more of a we-complete-each-other approach, then he could help make sure that you maintain strong identities as individuals even as you build an interdependent relationship. You, in turn, could take the lead in making such that you have enough novel, exciting shared experiences to maintain a spark. Your aspirations, social values, and sense of what is fun (Venus) naturally clash with the way that your boyfriend most comfortably expresses his general vitality (Sun). Compromising around these difference can help smooth the way. Compromising means that he makes some accommodation to your tender sensibilities and your desire to feel connected, and you don’t ask him to indulge your tastes by doing what would leave him feel like he’s being untrue to who he is.

Your boyfriend’s Mars trines your Moon and sextiles your Uranus-Ascendant, so your relationship is not likely to grow stale or dull. Your emotional self-expression naturally encourages him to take adventurous risks, and his drive encourages you to become more assertive in your closest interactions with others. Passions run strong here, and this will add fuel to the romantic spark…or to the fire, if you let conflict grow or fester between you.

In your boyfriend’s birth chart, the Moon in early Leo, Mercury in late Pisces, and Neptune-Ascendant in late Scorpio form a triangle-shaped pattern (a grand trine). Planets in a grand trine can be like support group members who help each other accomplish creative goals. They can also be like drinking buddies who encourage each other to have one more for the road, regardless of the possible negative consequences. Five of your planets form aspects to his grand trine, and each planet offers his own brand of energy to this dynamic: depth (Pluto), compassion (Neptune), commitment (Saturn), enthusiasm (Jupiter), and liveliness (Sun). Much of how their energy manifests will depend on how your boyfriend is doing in terms of communicating about his feelings. If he avoids heart-to-heart conversations or misrepresents the facts, and if you try to squelch his communication or control his behavior, then your interactions could turn dark and nasty. If he lets you in on what’s going on, honestly and with sensitivity, then you could build something uplifting and enduring together. 

If you ever want to have a more thorough understanding of the pontential in any relationship between you, you might order a synastric (relationship) interpretation. 

Personal Business

I’m assuming that by “personal business” you are referring to some sort of vocational activity of your boyfriend--perhaps a commercial business that he owns. Does the success of his business depend on him securing financing or other support from other people? If so, then he may have to contend with some delays or a relatively cool or demanding reception from others between now and roughly May of next year. Transiting Saturn squares his natal Sun from his 8th house of other people's assets until that time.

This doesn't mean that he can't achieve success between now and May, but Saturn will require that he put in a lot of time, effort, and self-discipline in order to accomplish it. Saturn tends to slow down and structure matters. This guy believes in building solid foundations and doing lots of "debugging" along the way. He rewards us according to how much effort we put forth and how realistically we act. His message is that we eventually reap what we sow.

If your boyfriend is channeling his ambition into a path that is appropriate for him, then he should aim to withstand a trial by fire of sorts during this period. It's a time to strengthen his resolve, show what tough stuff he's made of, and then emerge stronger from having been tested, come next May.

On the other hand, if he's not pursuing ambitions that are appropriate for him, then he should consider any obstacles that he encounters now a wake-up call to adjust not only how he's going after what he wants but also what he's going after. Putting off any necessary adjustment now would only make for a costlier, more frustrating dead-end seven years from now, when Saturn opposes his Sun. Continuing down the wrong path now would probably lead to a big collapse by then.

In any case, if your boyfriend feels stymied or frustrated because he's not getting the freedom or recognition that he would like during this time, then he should muster his patience as best he can, shoulder his responsibilities honestly, and hang in there till Saturn moves on. Taking care of business now will help him succeed later.

Now, I don't want you to think that it's going to be grim going the entire time from now until May. Yes, Saturn is teaching some serious lessons, and he can be stern, especially if we try to cut corners or skip class. ("The dog ate my homework" won't cut it with Saturn! ;-)) However, exuberant Jupiter is also triggering several points in your boyfriend’s during the next 12 months. Jupiter always walks on the sunny side of life, and when he triggers key points, it signals an opportunity or at least a temporary easing-up of life’s strenuous demands. In this case, they can help soften the seriousness of Saturn. It’s easier to have a sense of humor and to roll with life’s punches when Jupiter is on board. With Jupiter, the trick is to act hopefully without going overboard or waiting for life to simply fall in your lap.    

October-November of this year and June of next year look like relatively auspicious months for your boyfriend to make significant headway in his career (the latter time more so than the former, since Saturn will no longer be squaring his Sun at that point). That's because two events will trigger the Midheaven. The Midheaven is the highest point in his birth chart. It symbolizes his highest aspirations, his most public pursuits, and his reputation in the community. Both of these events will act like waves, cresting and ebbing at various times over the coming year.

Specifically, Saturn sextiles his Midheaven from roughly September till June (peaking in September, November and June), and Jupiter passes over his Midheaven from roughly October till July (peaking in October, March, and June). The Saturn event gives your boyfriend a chance to apply his ideas and vision of the future more fully, which would in turn help him achieve a satisfying degree of authority or status in his community. The Jupiter event means that it’s time to bet bigger on his relationship with authority figures, to aim higher in his public life. It’s now possible for him to seize an opportunity and take advantage of it in his career, something that had not been within his reach until now. To make the most of it, he’ll need to keep his eyes and ears open, recognize it, and take initiative to build on it, without getting overconfident or sloppy in the process.

If your boyfriend would like a more complete understanding of upcoming trends, choices, and the sorts of results that he might get depending on which choices he makes, I suggest that he order a transit interpretation.

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